Hey KoolKeith,
Glad to hear your out.I'm not glad that you had to go through a JC meeting. I've been in them myself. I chose not to go to my last one. I let them have all the fun by themselves. Good luck with your new future of freedom.
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well folks im out
by koolkeithfl ini just got dfed last night.
i want to thank you all in advance for helping me through this.
i wanted to fade but my wife insisted that i wasn't gonna dfed.
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Do you know any JW's that were Disfellowshipped or Reprooved over 3 times?
by booker-t ina girl i work with told me the other day that she is going to the elders and ask them to "reinstate" her for the 4th time.
i told her she must be out of her mind.
why would any jw go through all of that headache?
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Hey BookerT,
I don't have an answer for you. My wife's brother was DF'ed at least 3 times. I asked her how many and she said she felt 3 possibly 4, she lost count. He always marries the women he gets involved with. Then goes through a divorce and gets DF'ed. I don't know why they subject themselves to the humiliation involved in going before a JC.
I knew someone back in CT where I lived originally who was DF'ed at least 3 times and publically reproved also. He had a large family and he always seemed to get right back into it. I've recently found out he passed away a few months ago.
I personally wouldn't put myself through it again after the first time. That's why Tink and I chose not to show up at ours, it's humiliating to say the least. I hope she listens to your advice Booker.
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Time to tell my story
by NoMoreMeetings inmy life story leaving jw's came out in the following newspaper article.
thought i'd share it with all of you.. i was an elder for 8 years.
for 2. left in 2002.. .
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Welcome NMM.
I am sorry for the loss of your son, and the shunning you are going through. However it looks like you have a new family of support. You'll find much support here also. There is a very large family here for you. Again, welcome!!!
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Kristi may not make it through surgery.
by Frannie Banannie ini just got the news a little while ago.
kristi, the ms patient i've been taking care of went to the er this morning with a perforated colon and peritonitis....her bp was waaaay down and the docs have her in surgery right now, but they've told her parents it doesn't look good for kristi to make it thru this.. i was with her yesterday.
she had started the morning throwing up and her mom was there because kristi was impacted and she was trying to remedy the situation.
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I'm very sorry to hear this sad news Frannie. I hope Kristi pulls through. My thoughts and prayers are with her.
(((((((Frannie))))) (((((((Kristi)))))))
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Ozzie's Weekend Poll #119
by ozziepost inwell, it's certainly been an eventful week!
i hope this weekend is a time of resting and recharging the batteries.
so, let's settle down with a relaxing drink (especially a shiraz!
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Hello Ozzie,
I hope you and your wife are doing OK.
Here's my answers.
1. Family study - I didn't have children- if I did I wouldn't have had time with working my *#% off trying to support the Family.
2. Daily text with the family -Hated reading the Text, and hated when they did it at the assemblies.
3. Pre-study on public transport - I always read the newspaper.
4. Street witnessing - I did this but hated it. I hated the look I got from people who were rightly annoyed at me shoving garbage in their faces.
5. Backroom meetings! - I hated the ones I was involved in before I moved to the South. That's why I vowed never to get into one again, which is why Tink and I are out, we refused to go into a "back room" lynching.
6. Shepherding calls- I hated the time I had to wait while listening to these guys, until we got to the refreshments we always served. I never went on Shepparding calls. I was always sick...LOL
7. Offerimg a subscription - I never offered them. I never took money for the mags either, unless I was with the CO.
8. Hall cleaning - This I did whenever it was our turn. I didn't want to leave someone with the burden of doing it all themselves. I hated it when the B.S. conducter never showed however!
9. Reading the secondary articles - I never read the main ones.
10. Brother/Sister Zealous - Did not like to talk to these people. Had all the answers. Never had any problems. Jehovah always blessed them.
11. Other (please detail)- Calling on people who wrote into the Cong. or told someone at the door they didn't want JW's at their door anymore, to try and find out if they felt the same way. I used to hope that they moved and someone else lived there.
This was a good one this week. Thanks Ozzie. Hope you have a Great week!
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I hate saying hello to someone and have them walk right by not even looking at you. This happens to me alot where I work. I also hate someone who interupts another person who is talking. I hate not getting a thank you for doing something kind, like holding the door for someone or picking something up that they dropped.
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I lost her.
by Fleur inmy beautiful, sweet, loving, kind grandmother passed away today.one of the only three people in my life who ever loved me unconditionally.
at the end they tell me she was not struggling, but for weeks before that, she did.
she suffered, horribly.
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((((((Fluer))))))
I am very sorry for the loss of your Grandmother. My thoughts are with you.
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I dread the day!
by CC Ryder ini stopped in to see my parents yesterday.
my mother is not a jw, my father is.
my father is 81 and told me he stepped down as an elder recently.
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Thanks Valis. I've been thinking about something like that. I just have a bad temper and low tolerance for those knuckleheads. My Dad has been real level headed and kind to Tink and I during our exit and over these past few years. I don't want to say too much, I'm still fearful a snoop may read these posts and cause him some grief.
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I dread the day!
by CC Ryder ini stopped in to see my parents yesterday.
my mother is not a jw, my father is.
my father is 81 and told me he stepped down as an elder recently.
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Hi Mulan! My father had been trying to step down for the past 3 or 4 years. His health has been failing slightly and his eye sight is not good. Much like that friend you mentioned, his fellow Elders wouldn't let him take a break. I held my temper back though.
I'm glad they finally let him have break. Thanks for the reply Mulan, it's nice to hear from you again. I am just returning these past weeks to try and post more often.
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I dread the day!
by CC Ryder ini stopped in to see my parents yesterday.
my mother is not a jw, my father is.
my father is 81 and told me he stepped down as an elder recently.
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I stopped in to see my parents yesterday. My mother is not a JW, my father is. My father is 81 and told me he stepped down as an Elder recently. I was calm until he mentioned that the CO was there at the time and they met with him and read him scriptures that was intended to encourage him, and "to not worry about leaving all that work that has to be done behind, that Jehovah knows you have done more than your share" BS. I almost lost it when he said that. Why can't they just say, " You deserve a rest Brother, you've done very well, enjoy yourself and take a break".
I dread the day he passes away and I have to deal with those insensitive, brainwashed, self-righteous people! I think I owe it to him to honor his wishes to be cremated and have a memorial talk at the KH. I just don't know if I can go through it without punching somebody in the mouth! I know the day is approaching. I have been trying to prepare myself for it, I just dread it.
Tink and I went through it with her Mom and her Uncle, but it will be different when it's my Father. I'll be directly involved then.
Anyone have any suggestions?
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I just realized that I put this post under the wrong topic. Please accept my apollogy. (editted to ad this comment)